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Preparing For Your Child’s First Kiss

May 20th, 2010 · 3 Comments


“Kissing leads to touching. Touching leads to grandchildren.”

This sweet little quote was posted on Facebook by a 12-year-old that my son has a crush on. I know her mother and I can almost hear her saying that to her daughter. Good to see that some children listen to their parents!

I’m assuming it’s because the daughter has had her first kiss and shared the experience with her mum, as I’m told girls tend to do. As I haven’t noticed any emotional changes in my son, I have to also assume that it wasn’t with him and he hasn’t heard about this incident (mum mail is apparently faster than peer post).

A couple of years ago I caught my son practising his kissing technique on his arm. It was so cute. He’d observed a couple kissing in a movie and was clearly keen to give it a go. At the time, I told him that it wasn’t really something that he could practice for. It would be a natural reaction to his feelings for the girl at the time. And no matter how good he got at kissing his own arm, it wouldn’t prepare him for puppy love’s first kiss.

A couple of months ago he met up with the girl of his crush at a coffee shop. Her mother and I were nearby, but we gave them their space. It was beautiful. He bought her a drink and then they talked and talked and talked – in a part of the cafe where we couldn’t see them. After about an hour they went their separate ways, returning to their respective mums.

I asked my son what they talked about.

“Oh you know, stuff,” he said. “We like the same things, the things we talked about.”

“Did anything else happen?” I asked, wanting to pry, but not wanting him to know that’s what I was doing.

“What else could have happened?” he asked, so innocently that I wanted to bundle him up in my arms forever.

Although I was dying to know, I stopped myself from asking if they’d kissed because I didn’t want to put that pressure on him.

It may or may not have happened on this occasion, but I suspect that first kiss isn’t far away.

Tags: Relationships · Uncategorized · sex

3 responses so far ↓

  • 1 olivia // Mar 20, 2011 at 2:18 am

    hi. im 12 years old and i read your article. the reason i read it was because when i had my first kiss at the school dance (yesterday) my parents freaked out at started yelling at me. so i assume your child hasnt kissed the girl yet because he would have been a little more… talkative. But when your son has his first kiss, please be cool and collective about it. if you start lecturing and yelling at them, it will make them totally ashamed. like how i feel right now. good luck!

  • 2 Crystyle // Jan 9, 2012 at 7:33 pm

    i’m a 13 years old girl.
    and i live in a country that has no mixed school, love and kissing are crimes for us.
    i loved a boy but unluckily he traveled abroad…
    now i really need kissing…
    what should i do?
    btw how old r your son? cuz my mother says that it’s not the time for kissing and u have to be older. is she right?
    my friend has kissed a lot but i haven’t. it’s the worst happen and i’m sad… :(

  • 3 peggy // Aug 11, 2012 at 7:40 am

    I realise your curiosity on your son. Its good u gave him his privacy.
    Good job

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