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Empowered To Study

September 9th, 2009 · No Comments

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I think we may have turned a corner. I have spent the past four years tearing my hair out, trying to convince my son that studying is part of the high school deal.

But he has never been a child who can be made to do anything that he doesn’t want to. As a toddler that was round-the-clock frustrating. As a teenager, it’s actually a great thing because he’s not swayed by peer pressure. However, it also means that he’ll only devote time to doing the things he’s interested in. And until recently that didn’t include studying.

Something relatively magical happened a few weeks ago. My son was empowered to choose the subjects that he would study for the HSC. My husband and I decided that we would have to leave him to his choices if we were to have any hope at all of him putting any effort in. So we took a deep breath, parked our own aspirations for him, and encouraged him to make the final decision.

Not only did he choose well, but he stated that he would be applying himself to his studies for the next couple of years. I don’t know why HSC subject selection became a line in the sand for him, but he seemed to cross over into a space where the importance of good grades in the final years began to resonate with him.

I have observed him during the past week and although he still doesn’t devote anywhere near the amount of time he’ll be needing to in order to even get into his favoured university course anywhere at all, he has actually managed to close facebook and spend quality time ploughing through maths problems without me screaming at him in advance.

It’s a modern day miracle.

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