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Can You Spy & Discuss Without Letting On?

May 26th, 2009 · No Comments

It’s easier than at any other time in history to find out what our teenagers are doing, thinking, feeling. As a teenager, I had a locked diary that I wrote in each evening. I hid it under my bed and the key was safely locked away in a place that my parents wouldn’t discover.
My son [...]

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Tags: Media · Parental Bonding · Technology · sex

Teaching Boys That Yes Means No

May 22nd, 2009 · 2 Comments

I’ve been brainwashing my sons with the “no means no” message since they were very young. I have muttered that mantra over and over again. They now believe it inherently and until recently I thought I’d done my job for the cause of female safety.
Recent stupid decisions by prominent young men have given rise to [...]

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Tags: Rules · sex

Why Girls Need To Be Taught How To Say No

May 20th, 2009 · No Comments

Teenage girls today are really savvy. They know that sex without a condom can lead to all manner of nasty diseases or a pregnancy. They know that the boy they’re having sex with probably isn’t their one true love and that he may not even know their last name. They get all of that.
What they [...]

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Tags: Education · Pregnancy · STDs · sex

Explaining Group Sex To Your Teenager

May 13th, 2009 · No Comments

Above: Soon-to-be former Footy Show co-host Matthew Johns
My sons are huge fans of the NRL version of The Footy Show. Thursday night is a headache to get them to bed. Their favourite is former Cronulla Sharks player Matthew Johns, who added much-needed comedic value to the program when he joined some years ago.
So when my [...]

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Tags: Heroes · Media · Sport · sex

Choosing A High School: Coed Or Single Sex?

May 8th, 2009 · No Comments

A group of parents were debating the pros and cons of high school coeducation at a dinner party recently. Many of the parents had chosen single-sex schools for their kids to avoid the distraction of the opposite sex during the hours when we want them to be studying. Others had what I call the [...]

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Tags: Education · sex

How Do We Convince Them To Use Condoms?

May 3rd, 2009 · No Comments

Parents of teenagers wouldn’t have been shocked by Tara Brown’s story on 60 Minutes tonight about unprotected teenage sex. It’s been going on since time began and most of us did it too.
The reasons don’t appear to have changed either: just like my Dolly readers of 15 years ago, girls are still going along with [...]

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Tags: Media · Pregnancy · STDs · Technology · sex

Would You Be Happy If Your Daughter Was Called A Hyena?

April 19th, 2009 · 6 Comments

According to the Africa Science blogspot, hyenas encourage sex with strangers. Dr. Jennifer Austin Leigh, the “number one teen girl expert in America,” also uses the term ‘hyena’ to refer to sexually active teenage girls. She recently created this descriptor in her book, Laid or Loved? The Secrets Guys Wish You Knew About Being a [...]

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Tags: Parental Bonding · Self-esteem · Technology · Teen Dictionary · sex

Should Your Teenager Be Reading Dolly Magazine?

April 15th, 2009 · 1 Comment

The mother of a 13-year-old girl recently asked me if her daughter should be reading Dolly magazine.
What can I say? I edited the magazine for five years back in the early 90s so naturally I’m an advocate. Dolly magazine is a teenage girls’ rite of passage. It was how I learned about the things that [...]

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Tags: Media · Puberty · sex

Does Your Teenager Talk To You About Sex?

April 14th, 2009 · 1 Comment

Is it just me or are teenagers opening up to their parents a lot more these days?
I was at a BBQ on the weekend and one of the guests told me her 15-year-old daughter shared with her the gossip that one of her girlfriends was caught with “some guy’s dick in her mouth” at a [...]

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Is It OK For Your Teenager To Have Sex At Home?

April 10th, 2009 · No Comments

How are you supposed to react when your teenager emerges from her bedroom with her boyfriend, having spent the night together under your roof?
That was the rhetorical question a friend posed while we were having coffee this week.
“There’s no way I’d let my son do that,” I said.
She looked at me and said, “but [...]

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Tags: Rules · sex