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A Mother’s Love

August 18th, 2009 · 1 Comment


My boys are the same age that Princess Diana’s boys were when she died in a car accident in a Paris tunnel on August 31, 1997.

It was the weekend that I brought home my second child who will be 12 this weekend. Although I wasn’t a royalist or Diana obsessee, I reflect on the tragedy around this time every year; the memory triggered by my son’s birthday.

William was 15 and Harry was 12 when their mother died. Impressionable years for both boys. A time when most young men desperately need the affection and understanding of their mother, even if they don’t realise it at the time.

As I watched my boys this evening eating the dinner that I cooked for them, putting on the pyjamas I laid out for them on the beds I made that morning, snacking on the cookies I’d baked them (Just Add Milk cookies – I’m no supermum) so they can concentrate on their homework, I wondered how/if my boys would cope as well without me.

Its not just what I do for them. It’s more about the security they feel in not having to worry about the details of their life because they know I’ll take care of them. Like most mothers, I do the incidental thinking for them. Who would consider the little things if I wasn’t in their lives?

Clearly Harry and Wills were surrounded by enough people to get the job done. But no one can love a child as deeply as a parent. Last night my husband remarked that he loved how much I clearly love our boys, as he observed me sorting out their lunch orders and recess snacks for the following day. It’s what I do; what many, many mothers do on a daily basis. And yes it is a labour of love, one of a very long list.

I’ve been doing this for nearly 16 years. Although my oldest son now towers over me and grunts more often than he offers intelligent insight these days, he needs his mum even more now as everything else in his life races ahead at a rapid pace. It’s hard not to feel sorry for the children who lose a parent at any point in their lives but knowing what I now know about teenagers, it seems that this juncture would be particularly tough to get through.

Spare a thought for Diana and her boys in the coming week.


Tags: Parental Bonding · Puberty · Relationships

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  • 1 Sarah // Sep 1, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    Gosh, how warm and lovely it is to read about how you love your boys. How lucky they are.

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